Well I guess I should give you guys an update on Boogy

I knew it was going to take me sometime to write, so I have been putting it off. But it has officially been a month as of May 5th since he has been here..So here goes…


Boogy was placed on April 5, 2007 at 29 months old…

When he first came he was extremely upset. He cried for a while, but I held him and then calmed down and started playing. He clung to me the first night (and many days after..) and I had to rock him to sleep, which was understandable seeing that for the 4 time in life, he was living with someone different…. He started off of course with mom and then went to paternal grandma at about 6 months and lived there until March 07,until she called DCFS and called them and told him to come and get him and then he went to live with his brother’s (Destructo) foster parents and lived there for 3 weeks and then they got accused of abuse and all of their kids were removed and then that is when they came to live with me..

Side Note: (Interesting Story) I went to take Destructo to the Dr. today and there was this little girl there he was playing with in the lobby, come to find out she was in the same former foster home as him, prior to being in my home…One of the ladies at the Foster care clinic was like, “hey they used to live in the same foster home.” Isn’t it ironic how her foster mother and I took both of them there on the same day?”

But anywho… Back to B…

Out of all the boys Boogy is the one I am worried about the most. He has a very good memory of living with his grandmother and asks for her often..sometimes he asks to go home…The sw gave me their phone # and I plan to set up visits, but I think I am going to wait until after TPR (Termination of Parental Rights) has happened…I recently found out grandma wants some lady at her church to adopt him, but not his brother (destructo)…although they are full siblings, but paternal gma doesn’t know D and I don’t think she has ever seen him, so she has no bond to him whatsoever…

The cw and GAL, do not want them split up, so if it came down to it, I may get preference over paternal gma’s friend at church because they have lived with me prior to TPR and the fact that they want to keep them together…. I think Boogy may have some (what I am praying to be VERY MINOR) attachment issues.. he seeks out affection and attention from strangers all the time….he has problems with looking me in the eyes/face (except for when he is lying) ..he shows me affection and runs up to me when he sees me, but at this point I am probably still stranger to him as well…But he does call me “mama” …and if you ask him who I am he will say my “mama.” The only other person he calls mama besides me is his daycare teacher, but everyone calls her mama….

He thinks every white woman he sees is his “mommy” (as opposed to his “mama” (me) and he thinks every brown or dark skinned black man is his daddy (apparently he knows his daddy is black)..on a funny note, he thinks every light skinned black man or hispanic person (which are in abundance in my neighborhood) is my friend James…(lol).The sad part is when we are out in public he just runs up to men (complete strangers) calling them daddy…It is kind of embarrasing….people already look at me like I am crazy with those three little babies so close in age that look nothing like each other..it makes me look loose, like my child doesn’t know who his daddy is..or me either for that matter..lol

B is constantly fighting for my attention, unfortunately his attention seeking methods are too often negative..I have managed to get the tantrums down from several times daily to a once in a while thing. He used to throw them everyday and they would last forever…but now it usually every other day or every few days and they last about 5-10 minutes….(THANK GOD!) He was even cursing daily at one point (YES CURSING)…I was shocked to hear such foul language coming from someone so young, but sadly ’tis the world we live in today….His cw told me he used to live with older kids (teens and late preteens) and he was significantly younger than the next youngest child in the home, so he was exposed to alot of stuff that he shouldn’t have been..

The boy has a bottomless pit for a stomach….He eats and eats and eats and eats and eats and eats….If it were up to him, he’d have some type of food in his mouth at all hours of the day…I need another job just to be able to afford to feed him..and the sad part is ..he is only 2..imagine when he gets to be 12 y/o..sheesh…. homeboy is going to have to learn how to cut some grass mighty fast to pay for his share of the food bill…or I am going to go broke (lol)

He is so cute!!!!…and tall for his age…He could easily pass for a child 1-2 years older than him..he has the cutest little brownish curly hair..It’s kinda blondish in the back…B is the best cuddler in the whole wide world…I went to court for him and Destructo on may 2nd..I’ll update you all on that on another post…

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