Well I think I will give you the low down on what has been going on in my life…in addition to the lastest on the boys…

Well I have been trying to purchase a house..the emphasis on trying.. I had the house picked out and financing in place, but the guy upped the price and the mortgage company wants to give me a pretty high interest rate…so I am now looking for a new house and new financing…..Please pray that I get it…I have to be out of my apartment by July 31st and I DO NOT WANT TO RENT ANYMORE!!!! I praying by 2009, I can open up a foster care group home. I think
I plan to focus on either HIV infected foster kids or teen mothers and their children who are also in foster care…

Side Note: I was in the foster care clinic this morning with Destructo and there was this lady there who was going on and on about he foster daughter (who was clearly no older than 4 or 5, she may have been 3), she kept talking down to the little girl and saying (to another lady who was there) I want this one out of my home….If they don’t come get her today, I’m going to drop her off…Come to find out the little girl is HIV positive and nobody told her foster mother this prior to moving her into the lady’s home (which btw is not licensed as a medical foster home and legally then little girl WAS NOT supposed to be placed there) Her foster mom find out after she took the little girl to the clinic because she was frequently sick…….she wasn’t on any meds or anything…I think this little girl has also been sexually abused…(so SAD..my heart aches for her)


The lady told the agency (over the phone) she wants her gone TODAY..she is afraid for the other children’s safety….she went to say I have to clean everything that she uses in bleach to keep us all safe….I wanted to slap her…(ALL OF THIS IN FRONT OF THE LITTLE GIRL) People are so ignorant about HIV and AIDS that it is ridiculous…We sit and touch and come in contact with people who have AIDS/HIV everyday and we don’t even know it….I just recently found out my cousin has full blown AIDS…none of us knew until he had to be hospitalized…You can’t just tell by looking at people and you aren’t going to get it by touching them or being around them..If that is the case..I’d have it!

Now if she had said she was afraid the little girl would act out sexually on other kids due to her abuse history I can understand, or if she was stressing the fact that she wasn’t licensed as a medical foster parent, I could totally understand..but the way she was degrading this precious little girl was completely ridiculous!!! Makes me so mad!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I felt so sorry for the little girl, she wasn’t doing or saying anything (literally), but the lady kept belittling her over in over in front of everybody…I almost told the lady if you don’t want her I’ll take her… tell them to bring her to my house….I’ll take her today..but I know they wouldn’t let her come, because she is now going to be labeled as medically needy and she has to be placed into a medical foster home, which my home is not licensed as…Please keep this little girl in your prayers….

There was also this other lady there who asked me was D my foster son, I said yes. she said, what agency are you with, I told her my agency. she said so am I. Why can’t I get any younger kids like him….I said I don’t know.. All my kids are young and then I told her about the boys…and I told her I don’t take kids over 6 y/o…She then told me about her foster son…She pretty much said that she is just tolerating hime being there..He calls her a nigger (She’s black, he’s a 10 y/o white male) and she went on to belittle him…but at least he couldn’t hear her…(I see why foster parents get a bad name now (–Sigh–)

Side side note: They place a lot of white kids here with black people…which I think is kind of odd. since the white kids..especially the younger ones are in high demand because a lot of white people in my county I know will only take in white kids and we have lot of white people ….I’m not opposed to it, OBVIOUSLY..since I did have Scooter..but I just think it is kind of odd…I’m glad that thy don’t discriminate or else a lot of kids wouldn’t have homes… anywho…

Back on track…
If the group home thing doesn’t work out..I will be shooting for a doing in home daycare..But I got to get the house first please pray for me to get the house….My car died on me at the end of March…It is so sad..I don’t have a car and I ahve been borrowing for over a month….and those cars keep breaking down on me too….Lord please help me…if not for my sake…for my kids….I pray to be able to get another car soon..I’m trying to wait until I close on my house…. I signed up for Extreme Homemakeover’s free Ford Edge giveway..I hope they pick me to give a car too.. I desperately need one….

News on the boys…

Well I went to court May 2nd for D&B and when I got ther the cw told me a few minutes before the case got called that mom and dad did not get served (ARGH!!!) They got released from prison the day they got served (or at least that is what she told me) and we have to wait 6 more weeks, but the judge says that if they are found before the 6 weeks is out, he will hear the case at an earlier date…..

My cw turned in all the adoption paperwork and the judge asked had they sought out any adoptive parents for the kids..that is when I got to talk to the judge and told him that I wanted to adopt both of them and he told me about the adoption process and asked me was there anything I needed for the boys or anything he could do for me….I love this judge!!!!

Court was kind of sad that day. I watched as the judge decided that this woman’s children would be in long term relative care until age 18 and he closed the case (as in he ended DCF involvement with the kids). The lady has the right to have it reopened in the future, but he pretty much took her kids from her…and she has only been working her case plan since November….well actually she hasn’t been working her case plan since November (she’s also in prison since April 9) and will be released in 2 and 1/2 months
I also watched as he terminated parental rights on another mother also in prison..she walked out the door and broke down crying and I couldn’t help but cry too….

I seriously doubt that the TPR will be denied in my case….Mom may appeal, but I don’t think dad will……I may be wrong..but with this judge and the new permanency laws I am feeling very hopeful….and until I am outright told NO, I will remain hopeful…

I am strongly thinking of changing the boys names…they aren’t bad names..I just want to give them something form me..I plan to keep part of their birth name and adding it.. I know many people are opposed to it..but plese spare me the comments…Thanks!!

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