I so relate to the video below…..right down to the part about guys only wanting to date me behind close doors. They thought (think) I was beautiful (or so they said), but were too ashamed to admit to their friends…..You have no idea how if feels to be a dark skinned female unless you are one..It is made even worse when you have lighter skinned female siblings..This really struck an emotional chord with me….I keep watching it over and over…..Please take time to look at this.

Black Is Beautiful: Dark Girls Preview |Clips from the upcoming documentary exploring the deep-seated biases and attitudes about skin color— particularly dark skinned women, outside of and within the Black American culture.|


  1. MamaEsh on September 2, 2011 at 8:31 pm

    Wow… wow… that video really made me wanna cry. So I am white momma of 5 beautiful black children. 3 daughters.
    Just recently my 6-7 yr old daughters have started complaining about and comparing their skin color. It kills me. I think they are beautiful and get compliments on all 3 of my adorable daughters from everyone! But they are starting to see the different skin colors. My daughters are all different shades of brown. One is def lighter then the other two. Its a difference they themselves picked up on, even tho I NEVER commented on it.
    They are obsessed with long hair. Obsessed. I do lots of braids and beads. Occasionally I will do genie locs. They love when I do because I leave them long. It bothers me to no end that they are at this young age so obsessed and aware of their skin and hair.
    They are beautiful girls. How do I get into their heads that they need to be proud of their heritage and culture? Maybe its not as much of an adoption/transracial family issue as I thought it was.

  2. jan on September 13, 2011 at 11:18 pm


    Society has really ruined it for our young ladies. They see the videos with the thin girls amored with extremely long weave. As tweens and teens they will see more and more AA boys expressing their preference for lighter skinned AA girls or Caucasion and/or Latinos.

    They best thing to do is to continue to let them know they are beautiful. Hopefully your voice will ring above their peers. Do what ever you can NOW to boost their self esteem, before they reach their tweens. What you are seeing now, is normal for their age. I remember, as a child, we would put towels on ours heads (to symbolize long hair). We idolized Farrah Fawcett and Suzanne Sommers too. I hope I am not telling my age too much.

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