I was reading an adoption forum the other day and an African American adoptive parent who adopted a biracial child (Half African American (AA) , Half Caucasian (CC) ) posed the question:  (Paraphrasing)  Should I be do something more to ensure my daughter knows about all her CC heritage?  Is living in America going to be enough? Anyone faced this issue before?

As anyone who has read this blog for any length of time knows, I am a AA mom raising biracial (AA/CC) sons. I must say that it really hasn’t posed as many issues as it would for a CC mom raising a biracial child, as it is fairly normal in the AA community to have relatives of many skin tones and most people just consider my sons to be “black.”  As a matter of fact when I got the call to be placed with them, I was told they were full AA.  I do get the occasional : Is your “baby daddy” white? questions.  But I’d still have to think that when people see us out, it is more “normal looking” to society than if they had a CC mother.

But anyhoo…It got me to thinking: Should I be doing more?

The Monsters know they are biracial. We have genuine relationships with CC and other non AA people. I do purposely live in an area that has many races/ethnicities represented and I purposely chose a private school that has many races/ethnicities, as I personally didn’t want my kids to go to an all one race OR majority one race school or live in a predominantly (any race) neighborhood. But I do this moreso, because it is important to me that they learn from, have experiences and relationships with people of different races, ethnicities, socioeconomic “classes” etc… Not so much so they can learn exclusively about CC heritage or culture.

I honestly don’t do anything above and beyond that to incorporate their CC heritage. as I really don”t know what is is other than “American” and they get exposed to CC American culture everyday.

From what I gathered in the little amount of time I  spent with her, their CC birth mother identifies more with AA culture. She does not even hang around her own CC family and most of all her friends are AA.

So should I be doing more?

If so, what?

Are you an African-American parent who is raising a biracial child? Do you do anything “extra” to teach them about their CC or “Non AA” heritage?

Is living in America enough to teach half CC, biracial kids about their heritage?


  1. Ben Fremer on May 1, 2011 at 5:03 am

    “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” – Galatians 3:28

    Just my $0.02. God bless. 🙂


  2. The Working Home Keeper on May 5, 2011 at 11:05 am

    Saw your comment on MSM and came over to visit your blog! I’m the mother of three bi-racial children. My husband is White (German/Polish) and I’m Black. While my children know they are bi-racial, I can’t say we really incorporate much racial heritage from either side in our lives. My husband’s family has a very rich heritage and we will definitely share those stories with our children as they get older. Telling them about how their Polish great-grandparents had to flee their country during the War, and coming to America at Ellis Island. But in general, we don’t really focus much on race. I grew up in a Black home and my family didn’t really celebrate anything in regards to being Black. It was just who we were! I guess that has really shaped how I handle the matter with my own children.

    Mary Ellen
    The Working Home Keeper

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